Motivational Tips by the Bump

Motivational Tips for Single Moms

by Karen Hellesvig-Gaskell, Demand Media

Single moms always know best.

If you're a single mom raising a toddler, preschooler or both on your own, take heart. More than 20 million U.S. kids live with one parent, according to KidsHealth.org, a website published by the Nemours Foundation. Divorce is the main reason a woman typically finds herself assuming the role of single parent; death of a spouse also occurs from time to time, and some women simply choose to be single mothers from the start. Single parenthood is challenging, but it can also be empowering because you are, after all, the family CEO.

It Takes a Village

"With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts." ~Eleanor Roosevelt. Most single mothers have plenty of resources and support at their fingertips -- although they must be willing to reach out and make a few inquiries. Close friends, family members and neighbors are often more than happy to help out in a number of ways, like watching your toddler in a pinch or driving your preschooler to dance class when you absolutely have to be somewhere else. If you want proof that you're not alone, join a support group like Parents without Partners. Some faith communities have singles groups. Such organizations give you a chance to talk about your feelings and hear stories from other single mothers that might make you realize life isn't so bad after all.

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Work and Play

"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on."~ Thomas Jefferson. Single moms generally have to work outside the home to help make ends meet. Getting a 9-to-5 job can be a major adjustment for moms who stayed at home during their marriage. Earning a paycheck can be a self-esteem booster for many single moms, even if it means juggling time to manage chaotic mornings and running the kids to daycare. Your Wonder Woman abilities are not going unnoticed; you serve as a positive role model and gain respect from your toddler or preschooler as he sees you make your mark on the world.

Act "As If"

"The most effective way to do it, is to do it." ~ Amelia Earhart. You wouldn't be human if you didn't wake up in a bad mood some mornings as thoughts of the day's "to do" list swirl around in your head. It's okay to be straight with your preschooler if you're having tough moment, but let her know that things always get better. It may sound like a cliche, but laughter truly can be the best medicine when you're feeling stressed out or overwhelmed. Try to focus on the things you have to be grateful for -- healthy children, good friends -- rather than what is lacking in your life. Be spontaneous and grab your kids and go out for ice cream and a trip to the park.

"Me" Time is a Must!

"Either you run the day or the day runs you." ~Jim Rohn. You don't have endless hours to spend at your favorite spa, but that doesn't mean you can't carve out some time a little self indulgence. Ask a friend or neighbor to watch your kids so you can go get a relaxing facial or a massage; you deserve a little pampering. Make time to nourish your close friendships. Try to set aside 30 minutes a day for exercise, even if it means splitting it into three, 10-minute, segments or two, 15-minute, sessions. A brisk walk can lift your spirits and help manage your weight. Speaking of weight, even though it's tempting to drive through a fast food place after a long day, eat nutritious meals as often as possible. Remember when there's a will, there's a way!